I have an experiment in mind and I’m seeking men to try it out with.

I believe that over the past 4-5 years I have achieved a certain level of skill over how lust affects me. I want to see if I can transfer that to a brother through a handful of connected experiences.

The simplest way of describing the skill I have achieved is that I have tamed how lust affects my cock. I used to live my life being dragged by lust hooking into my cock, taking me to actions—pornography, masturbation, constantly asking my girlfriend for sex etc. Now I don’t feel dragged by arousals into an action, and yet when it comes time to act—to penetrate—I can go on for quite some time.

I don’t feel sexually deadened at all—I enjoy approaching women I’m attracted to, talking with them, playing with them, exploring intimacy. When the time is ripe, I can rise to the occasion and perform well sexually, but then I’m living the rest of my life not being affected by lust hooks. Contrast with 10 years ago, when I was masturbating to porn 10 times a week or even more, afraid of approaching women I was attracted to and then when I found a woman willing to sleep with me, I’d bombard her with needy sexual requests.

Now, the lust hooks are still there everywhere. Pretty women on the Internet, pretty women on the streets. Just that the way my body—my cock—responds now is, I believe, in full alignment with what it’s meant for. The cock is meant for penetrating a woman that you are attracted to, when she is ready. When her pussy is begging for it.

To get her pussy to beg for it, you should feel comfortable playing with her in the bed for a long time without needing to penetrate—they call it foreplay. In the past, I thought foreplay was just a bunch of things you twiddle—lick the nipple ✅ lick the inner thigh ✅ lick the clit ✅—run through some checklist just so you can get inside her. Now I know that it is actually just play. You can still do all of those things and yet the overall orientation is that it is a fun, enjoyable experience where you are getting to know her body till she can’t take it anymore, and yet you are in no rush to enter her.

But then, when you do enter her, you are not rushed into ejaculation, by anything. You can take your time and really engage in a conjugal dance with her. Once that’s done, you are satisfied. Even if you don’t penetrate, you are satisfied. Even if you don’t drop into physical intimacy, you are satisfied with just the act of connecting with a woman that you truly want to connect with. The connection—even if just verbal—is so intimate, and you are only approaching women who you are truly attracted to and curious to get to know.

Once you are done with the connection, you continue living your life not feeling enslaved or moved around by your cock or your erections.

I didn’t live most of my life with this level of sexual alignment. And I suspect many men are not living their lives thusly either.

So, I’m curious to see if this switch can be transferred very simply, without needing a lot of effort.

I have broken through something in my body, and I’m very curious to experiment with the magic of brotherly connection to see if these skills can be transferred directly via osmosis.

The template I’m attempting to replicate is this concept of Shaktipat initiations where a guru initiates the Shakti into a disciple—a very common principle in different spiritual lineages. Note here that I use the term guru without any of the typical aggrandizement associated with it—a guru is just heavier (literal meaning) in a Shakti, and Shakti loves to transfer from the heavy to the light.

I’m curious if there is a way to just quickly—in a few sessions—connect the channels in a man’s cock, heart and crown, breaking through any blockages in the solar plexus. To bring a man from being addicted to porn, from having uncontrollable erections, and generally being enslaved to lust to full mastery, where the cock becomes an organ that is an extension of the spine that comes alive when an attractive woman’s pussy is yearning for penetration. I emphasize attraction here, not as an objective trait of the woman, but as a relational quality. For a long time in my life, I chased women that I wasn’t really attracted to, because I was enslaved to lust. So I do think it is crucial to make this distinction and ideally, if this were to work, the man would only pursue women that he is truly attracted to, and not just as vessels to offload his insatiable lust into.

And even when her pussy is begging, the man maintains full authority over when he decides to penetrate. When he does, he is able to sport for a long period of time. And then the rest of his life remains ejaculation free. There is no need to engage in any actions—masturbation with or without porn—of ejaculation.

The body generates semen and releases it when it needs to be released, but the man is not engaged in any semen release practices.

Most methodologies that I have encountered for this shift rely on quite complicated taoist/tantric practices.

I want to see if all that can be short-circuited via brotherly connection. Via osmosis.

The specific container I have in mind for this is where I drop-in one-on-one, either on a Zoom call or in-person with a brother.

Together, we look at a visual that arouses the brother and causes an erection. My key hypothesis here is that a man should be completely free of visuals causing an erection—either a visual on the Internet or a visual on the streets.

A man should be able to look at a woman who is visually pleasing to him and not have that experience yank into his lower regions. It’s great to feel alive by such visuals. Inspired even, but it is important to not have it lead to erections. In the past, I’d be very easily aroused by visuals. Now, if the visual of the beautiful woman is on the Internet, I often just find myself inspired to workout, without any erection. On the streets, I feel a nudge—a clarity. My mind goes, “ah I’m attracted to her”. But my cock stays silent after communicating that to my mind. I believe that is key in winning the battle over porn binges because these stray erections gather over time forcing a man to bend down to lust.

Now, it’s a different matter if you’re engaging with a pretty woman in intimacy and touch, and then you’re feeling aroused. Even in that case, my hypothesis is that you should not feel any rush to penetrate.

You should be able to breathe your own arousal up in connection with the woman. Allowing you plenty of time to play with and turn on the woman for as long as you want to. That’s the only way that you can be guaranteed to bring her to a place where she is begging to be penetrated.

You could still choose not to do so if you did not want to. And then enter her when you feel ready. Once you enter, you can continue for a long time.

Overall what I describe is a very easeful relationship with your own cock, your own erections, your own arousal.

This is my relationship presently with my own sexuality. And I am curious to see if it can be transferred through osmosis.

We do that by just looking at things that would get you aroused and then together we do a particular practice, which I call the Cup your Arousal practice.

Together, we breathe the arousal up till the erection gets deflated. My hypothesis is that if we do this together a handful of times, it’ll unlock certain channels in your body, brother, the same channels that are unlocked in mine. And I suspect then that you’d be able to breathe up your own arousals and erections when you are on your own. Initially, you might need to breathe these up. Over time, your cock will land into alignment with its inherent design. And you won’t have to do anything to live like the way I have described above.

My hypothesis is that this can also be done over Zoom calls.

Now I could be completely wrong about all of this. Hence I have phrased it as a hypothesis. But I’m ready to try this out now.

I’m looking for volunteers who are willing to give me feedback and open to leaving reviews on an online course I’m contemplating, if it does work out for them.

If this is you, respond to this email or drop me a note at [email protected] and share in clear words, your current relationship with your sexuality.