The battle against Lust in men plays out in the phenomenon of what I call stray erections. A stray erection is a physiological phenomenon where you experience arousal at a time and place where your intention isn’t set on Eros. Now once you experience that, there are two ways to respond—shift your intention to meet your physiology or tame your physiology to stay with your intention.

When you live unaware of the impact of stray erections, they can gather in you and eventually demand a release via pornographic or sexual binges. Often these binges may leave you feeling unfulfilled because they are misaligned with your intentions at the deepest levels. Such unawareness might be showing up in your life today where you are unconsciously doomscrolling on Instagram thots or pornographic GIFs on Reddit. Or allowing your eyes to drift lustfully away from your focus, whether that be the woman you are on a date with or the book you are reading.

One way men deal with the gathering of stray erections is to completely disconnect from their inner sexual impulse by numbing it out. Men find themselves collapsed into this woe-be-me mode of “Oh, I can’t get any woman, I’m gonna just stop looking”. That’s one strategy. Quite an unfortunate one, because, my brother, there are so many women who yearn for the quality of attention and touch that only you can provide!

There is another way.

There was a passage from The Way of the Superior Man that describes this Way so poetically. I’m going to re-render it from my own inner poet.

I read The Way of the Superior Man in 2019, while I was very much caught up in deep porn and sex addiction. That notion of breathing the arousal up and out is the key to masculine erotic evolution.

If I’m being physically intimate with a woman, and I notice a surge of energy pushing downward, attempting to escape out my phallus, I do the same. I breathe it up. It feels so enlivening. The woman can feel that too and it allows us to ride that wave together. Sex becomes less about riding her for my release, but more about riding the oceanic waves of liveliness together.

So if you are a man reading this and find yourself caught up in sex or porn addiction, I invite you to start tracking this for yourself. Track your attempts to win the battle against such addiction and notice which attempts are addressing the symptoms and which ones are addressing the root causes.

Consider the frame of what is called spiritual warfare for a moment with me. You don’t need to believe it, but just consider briefly that there is a battle being played out for the life that you hold in the spirit realm. There’s many thirsty, hungry demons that yearn for control over your attention because that’s how they sustain themselves through the life source inside you.

A whole category of these demons are what I call lust demons. They hide in your loins and the loins of the women around you. Every now and then one of them will drift out from a nearby woman attempting to find its mate inside you. Miraculous healing comes from extracting out demons from where they are rooted inside you and releasing them to the light through your crown. And all of this can be accomplished with a single breath. Breathe up, out your back and through your crown to feel alive and released from the persistent oppression of lust demons.

So my brother, I invite you to start tracking:

1. How often do you get stray erections? How many stray erections do you need to collect before you go to porn?
2. Have you ever noticed what kind of women you are drawn to masturbating to? Are there any patterns in them?
3. What’s it like for you to remember to breathe up in the moment of arousal? What does that do to your body? Can you feel your wings coming alive in your back?

It is quite possible to live a life that’s really alive, really connected, and not be having these stray erections all the time, while pursuing absolutely gorgeous women and enjoying their physical company.

Shiva, whose myth is the source of Tantra, was an ancient yogi, who spent most of his time in stillness. Time and again, celestial beings—apsaras—would try to distract him. Try to seduce him. And he would not move. No part of him would move.

Sit with that. How many stray erections was Shiva experiencing while gorgeous women tried to seduce him?

My brother, do you want to be seduced? Does that feel exciting to you?

A woman can only seduce you if you are still. You can’t be seduced by a woman and chasing her at the same time. Seduction only happens in stillness.

Only three women got through to Shiva through deep heart-centered penance. He wifed each of them and then copulated for eons. Is that something you desire? The capacity to copulate for eons? If you do, hear me out.

If your cock is hard and you are not in the presence of your wife, while her pussy is absolutely dripping wet, yearning and begging for you to enter. Where the entirety of her body desires you to move and she communicates that through her voice, through vibrations and through the throb and flower-like bloom of her pussy, drawing you in. If you are not in that moment, then that erection might be a stray one.

Breathe it up and out. Whatever is true, will persist. Whatever is not, will be breathed out of you.

Close the circuit in your body—tongue placed on the roof of your mouth—and breathe it up. Feel your whole body expand. Keep practicing this until you break through. Until you can physically and energetically notice the erection be breathed up and out of your cock.

The energy of Eros was never meant for just your cock to hold, but for the entirety of your supple spine.

Once you have that breakthrough, you’ll notice that Eros invites you into aliveness in many ways.

A good curl of the biceps loaded with heavy weight channels energy through the same pathway that you have cultivated for the upwards release of your stray erections.

An inspired session of creating art and writing after witnessing a Muse in the form of an attractive woman channels creativity through the same pathways that you have cultivated for the upwards release of your stray erections.

In the mythology of Shiva, there was only one time where he released. That was when Vishnu took the form of Mohini during the Churning of the Ocean. And from that release was born Hanuman—the Hindu deity that symbolizes devotion.

My brother, commit to yourself today that any and all releases from your body be in service of Devotion.

Breathe all else up and out through your spine.